(Facebook/Lisa Bevere) Lisa Bevere wishes she had loved her husband more fearlessly during the first few years of their marriage.
Bestselling Christian author Lisa Bevere is very happy with her marriage to husband John. However, she acknowledged that there’s something in their marriage that she wished she had done earlier.
The realisation came during a question-and-answer session on marriage, according to Charisma News. One of the participants asked her, “After more than 30 years of marriage, is there anything that you would have done differently?”
For Bevere, there was only one thing. “I would have allowed John the right to make more mistakes, and I would have loved him more fearlessly,” she answered.
Bevere admitted that in the past, she refused to love her husband “fearlessly” because she was afraid. To protect her emotional wellbeing, she reclaimed “large portions of the real estate of my heart.”
When they first got married, John brought the problem of porn into their relationship. Instead of helping her husband through it, Bevere said she pulled away from her husband.
“Somehow Jesus’s admonishment to forgive as we have been forgiven had disappeared with the revelation of John’s sin. I lived in fear and shamed him as he struggled to get free with little or no support from me. This was not approached as our challenge… it was his,” she said.
But in the end, God provided Bevere with the right heart to help her husband free himself from his porn addiction. Instead of leaving her husband to his own devices, Bevere forgave him and embraced his issue as her own.
“When I extended this unconditional mercy to John, the healing began for both of us. He was able to move out of the darkness of shame and into the light, where he found freedom from his bondage. This shift in perspective was a turning point. I could trust the unchangeable God,” she said.
